Episode Summary
In this powerful Season 2 kickoff, Derek and Jordan dive deep into one of the most misunderstood aspects of marriage restoration: false standing. Many spouses believe they are standing in faith—but are unknowingly operating in compromise, compliance, or religious performance.
This episode unpacks what it means to stand righteously, why some spouses never see restoration, and how a second vow of consecration is required for true healing. Derek issues a sobering warning from Scripture about the dangers of unwillingness, spiritual blindness, and partial obedience—calling spouses into true repentance, surrender, and obedience.
Jordan shares raw and personal insight from her own journey of confronting self-righteousness, religious pride, and the hard truths about her role in the brokenness. Together, they break open the false beliefs many Christian spouses carry and point listeners toward the true restoration path God designed.
What You’ll Learn
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Why “standing” is more than just waiting for your spouse to come back
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The biblical trap of taking a vow without counting the cost (Proverbs 20:25)
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What it means to walk in your second vow of consecration
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How spiritual blindness and unwillingness block breakthrough
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Why faith alone is not enough—faith must be accompanied by obedience
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The difference between God’s design vs. human effort in marriage
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How false standing mimics the error of Saul, Lot, and the prodigal son’s brother
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The devastating consequences of self-righteousness and pride
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Why God doesn’t measure your sacrifice—He measures your surrender
Featured Scriptures
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Proverbs 20:25 – “It is a trap for a man to dedicate something rashly and only later to consider his vows.”
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2 Corinthians 3:14–17 – The veil is only removed in Christ.
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Titus 1:16 – They profess to know God, but by their deeds they deny Him.
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1 Timothy 5:8 – Worse than an unbeliever if you fail to provide.
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James 1:22 – Be doers of the word, not hearers only.
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James 4:17 – To him who knows what is right but doesn’t do it, to him it is sin.
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2 Timothy 3:6–7 – Always learning, never able to arrive at the truth.
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Matthew 13:14–15 – Hearts dulled, eyes closed, unwilling to turn and be healed.
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Hebrews 6:4–6 – A sobering warning about deliberate apostasy.
Key Takeaways
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You may be standing in faith, but still be in disobedience if you’re not walking in full surrender.
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False standing is often rooted in pride, performance, comparison, or control.
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Faith without fruit is not obedience—it’s deception.
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Restoration isn’t just about fixing a marriage—it’s about consecrating your life and returning to God’s design.
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God already made the perfect sacrifice. He doesn’t want yours—He wants your obedience.
Calls to Action
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