Episode Summary
In this eye-opening episode, Derek breaks down the biblical reason why some spouses keep missing the moment — the moment of breakthrough, clarity, or restoration they’ve been crying out for.
He walks through how spiritual laws govern restoration, and why many believers are willfully blind to the role they’ve played in the destruction of their marriage. Whether through delayed repentance, pride, or passivity, many spouses keep asking God to fix something they refuse to face.
Using stories from Luke 19 and 2 Samuel 6, Derek highlights the devastating consequences of not discerning the time of God’s visitation — and why God allows some people to miss it on purpose as a consequence of rebellion or idolatry.
This episode is a sober call to awaken to truth before the moment passes again.
What You’ll Learn
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Why many Christians think they’re “waiting on God” but are actually under judgment
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The connection between spiritual blindness, pride, and missed moments
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What it means to discern the time of your visitation (Luke 19)
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How God responds to apathy, delay, and partial obedience
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The real reason your spouse (or you) keep circling the same mountain
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How blaming, controlling, and religious behavior keep you from seeing the truth
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Why God allows people to miss moments when they’ve hardened their heart
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The spiritual law behind God’s timing and your maturity
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How bitterness, unforgiveness, and pride are blocking divine timing
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The difference between the grace for restoration and the opportunity for it
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What to do when your moment has passed but you still want restoration
Featured Scriptures
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Luke 19:41–44 – “You did not recognize the time of your visitation.”
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2 Samuel 6 – Uzzah touched what was holy and died — all because of improper order.
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Proverbs 1:22–33 – “Because you rejected wisdom, I will laugh when disaster strikes.”
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Ecclesiastes 3:1 – “To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose.”
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Galatians 6:7 – “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked. You will reap what you sow.”
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Romans 2:5 – “Storing up wrath for yourself because of your stubborn heart.”
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Hebrews 3:7–15 – “Today, if you hear His voice, do not harden your heart.”
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2 Timothy 4:3–4 – “People will not tolerate sound doctrine, but gather teachers to say what they want to hear.”
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James 4:17 – “If you know the good you ought to do and don’t do it, it is sin.”
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Acts 7:51 – “You always resist the Holy Spirit!”
Key Takeaways
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God doesn’t delay — we do. He is not slow to respond, but we are slow to repent.
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Many are waiting for God to change their spouse but refuse to change themselves.
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Spiritual timing is not just about readiness — it’s about righteousness.
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You cannot recognize the moment if you’re still stuck in resentment or deception.
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There are real spiritual laws that govern restoration, healing, and authority.
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Many are praying for marriage restoration but living in contradiction to God’s order.
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God will not pour new wine into old wineskins — you must be transformed first.
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Missing the moment isn’t always because God said “no” — it may be because you weren’t willing when He said “yes.”
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The kindness of God leads to repentance. But the discipline of God leads to readiness.
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If you’ve missed your moment in the past, it doesn’t mean you’re disqualified. It means you must surrender, realign, and prepare for what God still desires to do.
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