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Our Approach to Restoration & Healing

We believe there is an order to healing—a progression that many skip in favor of relief. But God is after true deliverance, not temporary fixes.

Marriage restoration requires balance:

Statement of Faith

The Word of God

We believe the Bible is the inspired, infallible, and authoritative Word of God—sufficient for teaching, correction, training in righteousness, and equipping the saints for every good work (2 Timothy 3:16–17). We do not conform the Word to our circumstances; we submit our circumstances to the authority of Scripture.

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The Gospel of Jesus Christ

We believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God, fully God and fully man, born of a virgin, crucified for our sins, raised to life on the third day, and now seated at the right hand of the Father (Romans 1:3–4, 1 Corinthians 15:3–4). Salvation is by grace through faith in Him alone (Ephesians 2:8–9), and true repentance will produce fruit (Matthew 3:8).

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The Holy Spirit

We believe the Holy Spirit is active today—convicting, comforting, empowering, healing, delivering, and guiding believers into all truth (John 16:7–13). We affirm the operation of spiritual gifts as biblical and necessary for building up the Body (1 Corinthians 12), and we reject any theology that denies the power of the Holy Spirit in the name of cultural comfort or religious tradition.

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Deliverance & Sanctification

We believe sanctification is not merely behavior modification but a Spirit-led process of transformation, often requiring inner healing and deliverance. Believers can be oppressed or influenced in soul (mind, will, emotions) when legal access is granted through sin, trauma, or generational iniquity (Galatians 5:1, Ephesians 4:27). We teach that Jesus still delivers and sets captives free (Luke 4:18), and the Church must return to the biblical mandate of casting out demons, healing the sick, and making disciples (Mark 16:17–18).

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God’s Design for Marriage and Family

We believe marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman, established by God for His glory, generational legacy, and redemptive purpose (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4–6). We believe God is able to restore even the most broken marriages through repentance, deliverance, and Spirit-filled discipleship. We affirm the unique roles of husband and wife, the spiritual weight of covenant, and the responsibility to walk in order, humility, and God-given authority—not worldly hierarchy or passivity.

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The Church and Community

We believe believers should be rooted in a local church and in Spirit-led, truth-filled community. Isolation is a tactic of the enemy, and restoration happens in accountability, not secrecy (James 5:16, Hebrews 10:25). We reject consumer Christianity and call families into radical obedience, order, and alignment with God’s design.

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Identity and Authority

We believe every believer must walk in the fullness of their identity in Christ, renouncing false labels, generational strongholds, and cultural compromise (2 Corinthians 5:17, Romans 8:14–17). We teach and model spiritual authority, not as entitlement, but as a responsibility to destroy the works of darkness and establish God’s kingdom in our homes and communities (Luke 10:19, 1 John 3:8).

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The Kingdom of God

We believe Jesus is returning, and His Kingdom is both now and coming (Luke 17:21, Revelation 21:1–4). Until then, we are called to live set apart, waging war against deception, raising up righteous families, and restoring what hell tried to steal. Nothing is lost in the Kingdom of God—only misplaced, and we are committed to helping families recover all.

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Our Faith, Our Foundation

“We believe the Holy Spirit is not optional but essential.”

At Established Family, we believe the gospel of Jesus Christ is the only way to true restoration—personally, spiritually, and relationally. Marriage was designed by God as a covenant, not a contract. It is a reflection of Christ and His Church—a holy union meant to display redemption, sacrifice, and generational blessing.

We believe the Holy Spirit is not optional but essential. Without Him, there is no conviction, no transformation, and no power to overcome the forces working against your marriage. The same Spirit that raised Christ from the dead is the same Spirit that can resurrect a dead marriage.

We believe every marriage was created for more than survival. It was designed to carry the image of God, the mandate of dominion, and the fruit of righteousness—but that cannot happen apart from Christ. Restoration begins not with your spouse, but when you return to your first love—Jesus.

The 10 Pillars

The 10 Pillars

The 10 Pillars

The 10 Pillars

The 10 Pillars

Of Marriage Restoration

Of Marriage Restoration

Of Marriage Restoration

Of Marriage Restoration

Of Marriage Restoration

1) Seek the Kingdom & Restore Your Faith

"But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you." (Matthew 6:33)

  • Your marriage was never designed to be your idol (Exodus 20:3)
  • The devil’s goal is to block your inheritance in the Kingdom (John 10:10)
  • Restoration will not look like what you imagined (Isaiah 55:8-9)

2) Renew Your Mind & Turn Your Heart to the Lord

"Be transformed by the renewing of your mind." (Romans 12:2)

  • A hardened heart leads to darkened understanding (Ephesians 4:18)
  • A hardened heart is biblical grounds for divorce (Matthew 19:8)
  • Your mind can become hardened and blind (2 Corinthians 3:14-16)
  • Your thinking is the battleground for your marriage (2 Corinthians 10:5)

3) Surrender Control & Break Free from Pride

Pride and control create division, but surrender brings healing. "Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up" (James 4:10). Let go of trying to fix things on your own, and watch God move.

  • Lucifer Was Kicked Out of Heaven for a Lifted Up Heart
  • Humility & Surrender Are the Only Way to Move Forward
  • Humility Is Not Weakness; It’s the Path to Restoration
  • Their Sin Isn’t Greater Than Yours: “Missing the Mark” is Sin

4) Return to God’s Original Design for Marriage

God designed marriage with a purpose. "A man shall be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). Restoration means aligning your marriage with the unity and purpose He intended from the beginning.

  • A Godly Marriage Requires 2x Born Again Believers
  • Marriage Wasn’t Designed to Heal Your Trauma
  • Marriage Was Designed for Dominion
  • Without Godly Vision, Marriage Doesn’t Matter

5) Expose & Rebuke Lies, Hooks, & False Beliefs

Lies from the enemy can keep us trapped in brokenness. "You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free" (John 8:32). Now is the time to expose and rebuke the lies and false beliefs that have been keeping you and your spouse in bondage.

  • The Enemy Thrives in Darkness; Bring Lies to Light
  • You Can Only View Your Marriage How You View God
  • You Need to Renounce All of Your Internal Agreements
  • You’re Not Protecting Yourself By Being Closed Off

6) Go Through Deliverance & Activate Spiritual Warfare

Spiritual battles require spiritual weapons. "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood" (Ephesians 6:12). Engage in deliverance and warfare prayers to break free from the strongholds that are holding your marriage back.

  • Deliverance Isn’t Scary or an Option; It’s a Necessity
  • You’re Not Fighting Your Spouse; You’re Fighting the Enemy
  • If You Don’t Fill Up After Deliverance, the Spirits Return with Vengeance
  • God Will Accelerate and Restore Your Marriage When the Wrong Things are Gone

7) Heal Past Trauma & Fill Childhood Voids

Unhealed wounds will continue to sabotage restoration. "He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted" (Isaiah 61:1). Allow God to heal your past hurts and fill the voids that affect your present relationships.

  • Stop Attributing All of Your Pain & Suffering to Your Spouse
  • Your Parents Were Your First Image Bearers of Christ
  • You Don’t Know What Normal Is if You Weren’t Shown It
  • Your Inner Child Doesn’t Need Expressed & Fulfilled

8) Restore Order in Your Marriage & Home

God is a God of order, not chaos. "For God is not a God of disorder but of peace" (1 Corinthians 14:33). Begin restoring order in your home by aligning your family with biblical principles.

  • Nothing Will Move or Grow Outside of the Order of God
  • A House Divided Against Itself Will Fall
  • You Can’t Redesign the Role of a Wife & Husband
  • You & Your Spouse Need the Fear of God

9) Walk in Humility & Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the cornerstone of restoration. "Forgive as the Lord forgave you" (Colossians 3:13). Restoration can only last when both you and your spouse walk in continued humility and forgiveness.

  • Forgiveness Has Many Expressions, but It Needs to Be Intentional
  • You Also Need to Forgive Yourself
  • Forgive What Your Spouse Didn’t Do, Not Just What They Did
  • You Will Always Need Grace & Mercy Moving Forward

10) Act with Godly Urgency & Eagerness

Don’t wait until it’s too late to act. "Make the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil" (Ephesians 5:16). Embrace this season with urgency, knowing that God is calling you to move now toward healing and restoration.

  • Delayed Obedience Is Disobedience
  • Don’t Wait for Another Crisis to Move Toward Healing
  • If You Want to Break the Cycle, You Need Urgency
  • Urgency Comes from the Fear of God and Godly Purpose & Mission