Episode Summary
In this raw and Spirit-led episode, Derek and Jordan confront one of the most misdiagnosed issues inside struggling marriages: stubborn strongholds.
They unpack what a stronghold actually is according to Scripture, how it functions in the soul and family bloodline, and why most couples never experience freedom — not because of a lack of faith, but because of their partnership with deception, false identity, or self-righteousness.
This episode isn’t about blaming your spouse or labeling symptoms — it’s about tearing down what was inherited, created, or tolerated so that God can rebuild from the ground up. You’ll learn how to bind the strong man, partner with the Holy Spirit, and stop confusing external evidence with internal alignment.
What You’ll Learn
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What a biblical stronghold is — and what it is not
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How strongholds are built through inheritance, rebellion, or tolerance
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Why many “spiritual” spouses are unknowingly walking in false authority
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How spiritual warfare connects to strongholds in your mind, marriage, and family
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The difference between confronting a person vs. confronting the spirit behind them
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Why some spouses are still bound, despite knowing Scripture and praying regularly
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How to bind the strong man using Jesus’ own words in Matthew 12
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The five ways to tear down strongholds for good
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Why the evidence of chaos, fear, and cycles often points to deep participation
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The danger of false protection, false community, and false standing
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How to partner with the Holy Spirit to expose what’s behind the pain you keep seeing
Featured Scriptures
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Psalm 18:2 – “The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer… my stronghold.”
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2 Corinthians 10:4 – “The weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds.”
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Matthew 12:29 – “How can anyone enter a strong man’s house and carry off his possessions unless he first binds the strong man?”
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Hebrews 6:4–6 – Warning against willful rejection after tasting the truth
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Romans 6:16 – “You are slaves to the one whom you obey — either sin or righteousness.”
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Ephesians 4 & Matthew 13 – Deep references to blindness, hardened hearts, and dull minds
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Acts 26:20 – “Repent, turn to God, and do works that prove your repentance.”
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Luke 3:8 & Matthew 3:8 – “Bear fruit in keeping with repentance.”
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Hebrews 5:12–14 – “By now you ought to be teachers… but you still need milk.”
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1 Samuel 5–6 – The hand of God is too heavy for the enemy to withstand
Key Takeaways
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Strongholds are not random attacks — they are fortified structures that require your participation to remain.
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Falsehood multiplies when tolerated. Many spouses unknowingly fortify strongholds through fear, self-protection, and pride.
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You cannot heal your marriage by demanding your own blueprint — God won’t bless a strategy that He didn’t design.
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Strongholds have symptoms — but unless you confront the root, you will keep blaming the visible and missing the invisible.
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True standing means you tear down everything that exalts itself against the knowledge of God — especially in your own heart.
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Deliverance begins with repentance and truth — not performance, not sacrifice, not self-soothing.
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The evidence of ongoing chaos in your life or marriage may reveal you’re aligned with the wrong master.
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Spiritual maturity is non-negotiable. The deeper your alignment with God’s laws, the more power you carry to bind the strong man.
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Repentance has receipts. If there is no fruit, there is no repentance.
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