Episode Summary
In this sobering yet freeing episode, Derek confronts one of the most misused phrases in Christian culture: “I’m just waiting for the still small voice.”
Many spouses claim they’re waiting on God — when in reality, they’re walking in disobedience, deafness, and delay. This episode unpacks how spiritual immaturity, trauma, religious pride, or control can cause someone to mishear, misapply, or misuse God’s voice to avoid the very thing God is asking them to confront.
Using Scripture and real-life insight from coaching hundreds of marriages, Derek draws a clear line between the still small voice of God and the silent rebellion of fear. If you’ve been “waiting for peace,” but ignoring conviction, this episode is your wake-up call.
What You’ll Learn
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What the Bible really says about God’s “still small voice”
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How fear and trauma can cause spouses to call disobedience “wisdom”
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The difference between spiritual discernment vs. spiritual avoidance
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Why waiting on peace isn’t always biblical — especially when God has already spoken
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How to discern whether God is being quiet — or you’re just refusing to obey
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Why many spouses stall under the guise of “seeking clarity”
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How Satan uses silence to counterfeit peace
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What happens when you elevate your feelings above God’s truth
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Why some spouses confuse emotional neutrality with spiritual wisdom
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How to train your ears to hear correction without fear
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What to do when you can’t hear anything at all
Featured Scriptures
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1 Kings 19:11–13 – Elijah hears the still small voice after the wind, earthquake, and fire
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Isaiah 30:15 – “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength…”
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James 4:17 – “To him who knows the good he ought to do and doesn’t do it, to him it is sin.”
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Proverbs 3:5–6 – “Lean not on your own understanding…”
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John 10:27 – “My sheep hear My voice…”
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Hebrews 5:11–14 – Spiritual maturity trains you to discern good from evil
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Romans 2:8 – “For those who are self-seeking and reject the truth, there will be wrath…”
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Proverbs 14:12 – “There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.”
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Titus 1:16 – “They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny Him.”
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Acts 7:51 – “You stiff-necked people… you always resist the Holy Spirit.”
Key Takeaways
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Silence is not always peace — sometimes it’s a judgment for refusing correction.
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Many spouses are calling what they’re feeling “God’s peace” — when it’s just emotional avoidance.
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The “still small voice” is not an excuse to do nothing — it is often the final confirmation after obedience.
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If you’re constantly waiting for peace before acting, you’re not following faith — you’re following comfort.
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God speaks most clearly in conviction — but pride will make you call that “confusion.”
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There is a kind of spiritual laziness that dresses itself in phrases like “I’m still praying about it.”
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Peace does not always precede obedience. Sometimes peace comes after you surrender.
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God will not compete with your preferences, opinions, or expectations.
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If you’re spiritually deaf, it’s likely because you’re emotionally hardened.
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God will keep letting you “feel nothing” until you’re finally willing to obey what He already said.
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