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Episode Summary

In this follow-up to Part 1, Derek and Jordan confront the cultural obsession with boundaries, triggers, and traumas—and how these trends are deceiving spouses, undermining covenant, and replacing submission to God with submission to self-protection.

This episode pulls back the veil on therapy-driven fads that sound wise but leave families fragmented, marriages in disorder, and believers enslaved to strongholds they helped build. Derek and Jordan reveal why God never designed your “triggers,” why boundaries are this generation’s language for strongholds, and why submission to the Lord—not psychology—is the only path to freedom, peace, and unity in marriage.

They close with a prophetic warning and encouragement for those caught in manmade fictions, reminding listeners that you cannot serve both Christ and counterfeit strongholds.

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🧠 What You’ll Learn

• Why boundaries without righteous standards are fortresses of unrighteousness

• The biblical difference between self-protection and God’s protection

• How “triggers” are actually rooted in unclean spirits or foolishness, not your God-given identity

• Why trauma language can soothe in the moment but never delivers true healing

• How strongholds are built through agreement and why boundaries mirror them

• Why many spouses have a language for trauma but no deliverance or order in their homes

• How Scripture defines wisdom vs. foolish reaction, and why peacemakers must submit

• The five traits of a wife walking in her identity as a daughter of God

• The five traits of a husband walking in his sonship and security in Christ

• Why sons and daughters are not “triggered” but only moved by the Spirit of God

• A prophetic warning against building your marriage on cultural fads instead of covenant

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📖 Featured Scriptures

• 2 Timothy 1:7 – “God has not given us a spirit of fear…”

• James 1:20 – “The anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.”

• Galatians 5:22–23 – “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace…”

• Proverbs 29:11 – “A fool always loses his temper, but a wise person holds it back.”

• Proverbs 3:5–6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart…”

• Proverbs 24:3–4 – “By wisdom a house is built…”

• Romans 8:14 – “For all who are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.”

• John 10:27 – “My sheep hear my voice…”

• Philippians 4:6–9 – “Be anxious for nothing… and the God of peace will be with you.”

• 2 Corinthians 10:4–5 – “The weapons of our warfare are not carnal…”

• Jeremiah 17:5–6 – “Cursed is the man who trusts in man…”

• Isaiah 31:1–3 – “Woe to those who rely on horses… but do not look to the Holy One of Israel.”

• Isaiah 26:3 – “You will keep in perfect peace the one whose mind is steadfast…”

• 1 Corinthians 15:56–57 – “The sting of death is sin… but thanks be to God who gives us the victory…”

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⚠️ Key Takeaways

• Boundaries cannot save your marriage—only submission to the Lord can.

• Triggers reveal unclean spirits or foolishness, not your true sonship or daughtership.

• Trauma language without deliverance keeps you enslaved to the past.

• Boundaries are this generation’s strongholds—fortresses you help build by agreement.

• A godly home cannot walk in unity if both spouses are submitted to triggers and traumas.

• Sons and daughters of God are never “triggered”—they are led and moved by the Spirit.

• Your boundaries are not protecting covenant; they’re protecting unrighteousness.

• Submission is not domination—it is consecration and reverence for God’s order.

• Stop looking for your spouse’s sin to justify your boundaries; focus on God’s standards.

• The fruit of wisdom, not the language of psychology, establishes a home.

• False teachers who promote therapy fads over truth will be held accountable.

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📣 Calls to Action

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